I am back after being at camp and then a quick trip to see family in central Texas. I wish I had all kinds of warm and fuzzy things to write about from the trip, but I’m afraid it’s just the opposite. I could choose to just skip those days and write about yesterday and today, but I would feel like a fake. I have always tried to be real with you, my readers. Therefore, I feel like I need to share the good and bad. Hopefully, you can find encouragement and wisdom in both. If I can help save you from a pitfall, then it will have been worth it. I never want to come across as having some kind of perfect “Leave It To Beaver” life where I do all the right things and know just what to say, etc… I’m no Ward Cleaver, just ask my family. I make my share of mistakes. I do have a desire to be a man after God’s own heart like David, but even he sinned, and I’m no different.
This weekend, I had a chance to spend some real quality time with my family. We went to see my wife’s parents and all of her family came in to celebrate her stepdad’s birthday. They live close to the lake, and have a swimming pool within sight of their house. They have a golfcart that the kids love to drive all over the neighborhood. My oldest is actually getting pretty good at driving it. Even with all of this, I got blindsided with a darkness that came over me that I couldn’t shake. I was emotionally withdrawn and “checked out”. I was spiritually weak – I tried to spend time with God but my heart wasn’t in it. My mind was filled with anxious thoughts of everything going on in life. I was physically exhausted. Normally, if I sleep past 7:00 a.m., I’m probably sick or was up all night. Someone should have been checking my pulse because I slept past 9:00 three days in row. This made me feel lazy, making things worse. My least favorite word in the Bible is sluggard, and I felt like one. I was quiet and disengaged, and didn’t feel like eating (more than that I was being stubborn and wouldn’t eat much). I was very quiet and sometimes snappy with the kids on the 9 plus hour drive home. Then, yesterday I was hit with the regret of a missed opportunity of really having fun with my wife and kids.
As I was thinking about all of this, I had determined that I had forgotten how to relax and have fun. Without a schedule, I didn’t know how to act. However, I now realize it was much more than that. I cried out to God yesterday morning to deliver me from the darkness. I don’t normally just randomly flip through the Bible, but I did yesterday morning. I came across Psalm 139. Verses 23-24 really hit me: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” I prayed that verse. I prayed on the bike ride into the office that God would deliver me. Slowly, God revealed to me what was going on. While I was at camp, I was able to run with the kids for the first time and not get winded. Because I’m eating better, have dropped 20 lbs, have been riding my bike to work and have been push mowing my “nearly one acre” I am in better physical shape than I have been in years. I hadn’t really noticed it until camp. That’s what motivated me to get on the bike yesterday morning in spite of the fact that I hadn’t been on it in about two weeks and it was supposed to be in the upper 90’s yesterday afternoon. I like the feeling of being in good physical condition, though it takes discipline. Once I got to the office, I decided to read a few emails before hitting the shower. A couple of comments on my blog stuck out for some reason. Since it had been a week or so since I had blogged, I couldn’t even remember what I had wrote. When I read it, it all hit me like a ton of bricks. I had been really pumped up about the idea of a retreat for single parent families. Ideas were flooding in, and I couldn’t get my mind off of it. DUH!!! I was under spiritual attack. The enemy was trying to side track me. He unloaded on me with both barrels, and I was too out of shape spiritually to recognize the spiritual warfare. My prayer time and time in the Word has been so stale and routine. My heart has not been in it. Therefore, I was not ready for battle. I got caught in guerrilla warfare with my armor down, and the enemy let me have it. I was letting anxious thoughts about finances (personal and church) and the future overtake my mind instead of paying attention to what God was doing around me. Pride and impure thoughts were running amuck. It kills me that my wife and kids were caught in the crossfire with their spiritual leader not prepared for battle. That should not happen. A soldier should always be prepared for battle. I didn’t even have the wisdom to call my prayer partners or my band of brothers. I just let it happen.
Yesterday, God encouraged me through a perfectly timed call from a friend / prayer partner and an email from a friend who cares. Before I left the office, I shot off an email to my band of brothers for accountability and prayers. In fact, I saw one of them last night, and he encouraged me. When I got home last night, I uttered a pretty poor apology to my wife, who was still visibly hurt by the whole thing, and rightfully so. She thought I didn’t want to be there with she and her family. She thought I would rather have been at home working on projects. She apologized for even asking me to go on the trip. That made me feel so much more like a jerk. I tried to explain, but my heart was hurting so much for hurting her that I couldn’t even give an explanation. I didn’t have the words to say because everything sounded so lame and pitiful. I owe her so much more than that. This morning, I reflected back on the verse from yesterday, and I asked God to restore me to Himself. I had some great time with Him this morning, and feel restored. As I was leaving our neighborhood on the bike this morning, in the field west of our addition, there were two deer grazing while their three fawns played. To me it was a sign that today is a new day to anticipate God’s wonders. To top it off, when I got to the office, I had an email from one of my “brothers” who reminded me to stand on the truth, not on what I was feeling. He said many other encouraging things that really lifted me up. Yesterday, I had said that I may even quit blogging because I wasn’t living out what I was writing. He told me not to quit, so here I am blogging once again. What in the world would I do without a loving God, family, and friends? I shutter to think of it.
I know this is a long entry, but one last story… Last night, we had our last coach pitch softball game of the season. In fact, it was my oldest daughter’s last coach pitch game ever because next year she will move up to the next level. She really wanted to win this game. Normally, this particular team is pretty feared in the league. When I discovered we were playing them for our last game, my heart sunk. However, they only had 6 kids show up to play, and just before the game their coach got hit in the face with a ball, breaking her glasses (she was okay). She was pitching with a borrowed pair of contact lenses (I’m sure there is some devotional lesson to a story like that, but I better move on). Anyway, it had rained earlier in the day and the field was pretty muddy, especially behind home plate. We kept having to clean the ball. Inspite of all that, our kids were hitting the ball like nobody’s business. I could be wrong, but I think every kid got at least one hit last night. In addition, the kids had their heads in the game and really played well defensively. I was so proud of them. I don’t know the exact score, but I think we won something like 14-3. We were all so happy, you would have thought we had just won the World Series. Afterward, we had a swim party, and I even got in to join them. In fact, I was one of the last ones to leave the pool at around 11:00. I ended up playing with my son for awhile at the end. I was trying to get him to jump in the water, but fear was keeping him back. He wanted me to hold his hands and then he would jump. I kept encouraging him to just jump. Finally, he got to where he would sit on the ladder and fall into my arms. He kept saying, ”More jump, Daddy” and “Do it again, Daddy.” He was having a blast. At least I didn’t miss that opportunity. It reminds me that we have a loving God who wants us to jump into His arms. We have nothing to fear. Especially in our times of weakness, He is calling us to rely on His strength and not our own.
May you seek God first today and stay spiritually fit and ready for the battle!